Part 3 will cover parenting tips for adolescents.
Adolescents and preadolescents (ages 10-11 up to 20-21, sometimes even beyond) form a tricky age group for parents. They are no longer children but not yet adults, undergoing multiple transitions. Puberty brings many physical changes, and while their thinking is maturing, they tend to live in the present without a full perspective. During this phase, peers and friends often gain precedence over family, as adolescents feel more comfortable with like-minded, fun-loving individuals rather than sedate parents with an “I told you so” attitude.
This is a crucial phase where parents need to be friends with their adolescent children. Teenagers often look up to younger adults outside the immediate family, so it helps if such potential role models are close and accessible. Young adults who positively impact teens can be excellent influences—why not ensure they’re worthy role models?
Teenage is also the age of rebellion. Many teens express rebellion subtly, like resisting simple chores or family activities, while others may be more overt. It’s important for parents to talk to their teens and understand their perspectives. Avoid being judgmental; instead, be open and approachable.
When a teen’s behavior does not align with a parent’s expectations, try having a healthy discussion to understand their reasoning. Rather than giving orders, frame it like this: “This is what I feel is better in this situation. What do you think? If you’d like to discuss it more or need any input, I’m here for you. Think it over.” This approach encourages the teenager to think things through and take responsibility for their actions, fostering a healthy, balanced personality.
Adolescents will learn from both their mistakes and successes. Knowing they have supportive, non-judgmental parents who want the best for them is invaluable.
What more could we ask for? Parents want their teenager to be responsible, to work sincerely towards a bright future, and to pursue something that fulfills their potential and brings them joy. Let’s help our kids find this balance. Let’s transition from being “parents” to being “dependable, experienced friends.” By keeping communication open, we can enjoy seeing our adolescents blossom into mature, responsible, healthy, and happy adults!
Happy Parenting!
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